Morgan Penn's Expert Libido Tips - About Health | Blog

"How do I get my libido back?” “My partner's sex drive is much higher than mine” These are things I hear everyday, mainly from my clients who are women who have come to me for help with their sex life. Sex drive, libido, desire, whatever you call it, sits pretty high on the sexual worry list. Just know how we feel in our sensual body is often seasonal. It is something that will ebb and flow throughout your life and when it comes to being in partnership, it is very rare to find two people with libidos that match perfectly, and definitely not all the time. Knowing that allows us to manage expectations around what can be a sensitive topic to many people.

When one person wants more sex and the other one wants less this can result in conflict. The one with higher libido ends up feeling rejected, frustrated sexually and resentful, while the partner with lower libido ends up feeling inadequate, confused or even pressured to have sex. The result of the sex that comes from this is usually unsatisfying to both. The one with higher libido ends up with sex that lacks passion, enthusiasm and fun, while the other person just can’t wait to get it over with. This can turn into a cycle of sex that is highly disconnected, unfulfilling and won’t be happening very often. Not ideal!!

The starting point here is to actually understand how libido works. It’s not a thing you either have or don’t have, healthy libido is something you consciously cultivate.

Clients reminisce about the good old days of when they first got together with their partner, when sex was frequent and easy. But remember there is a huge novelty factor, it’s new! There's excitement! We think about them, we fantasise about them when we are apart and there is a high level of separation and anticipation which we really need for polarity which helps light the sexual spark. Things change once you’ve been with someone for a long time. There is also a need to acknowledge the things that actively reduce and inhibit the libido like stress, fatigue, past trauma, body image, negative beliefs around sex and of course hormones.

But we also need to feel empowered to know that there are things that we can do to support and boost our libido for ourselves, otherwise we often feel helpless. I believe we have to take a holistic approach to identify and dive deeper into all these different layers that could be affecting it, and sometimes we are not ready to open certain cans of worms. One of the most supportive and nourishing places we can start is by looking into hormonal and nervous system support directly with the body.

This is why I love working with Herbal Ignite. I’ve known this company name forever, they have a strong history here in NZ. I’ve seen them normalising conversations about sexual intimacy for years. The products they have created can support libido naturally.

Their products have some amazing ingredients that have been scientifically researched. The ‘For Her’ product’s main ingredients are tribulus terrestris and h*rny goat weed which work together. Traditionally, these two herbs have been used in Chinese practice and have been shown to naturally support libido. A big part of Chinese medicine is about bloodflow. And this is something that I think is often overlooked with libido; we need good blood flow down to our genitals. You think about the average office worker these days, they’re sitting for hours and there's barely any movement in the pelvis. Then people get home after a big day and are expected to be alive and ready for action when they’ve actually been disconnected and cut off from it all day.

An embodiment tip for movement in this area is when you go through your day take some deep breaths down to your belly and do some hip circles to wake up that area.

As you can see there are many layers to libido and it is highly nuanced. I believe we have to work on all the layers and Herbal Ignite offers great solutions to support the body and hormones.

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